When you are in a serious relationship, it is not just about your relationship with that of your significant other. You must establish relationships with their family members, including their siblings. Of course, it can be unsettling if a partner’s brother or sister does not embrace you with open arms when first introduced. It is normal if their parents have more than one child. Do not fret. With a little patience and tactics, you can work around this situation. Here are some easy steps to follow to handle it should your partner’s sibling have developed an intense dislike for you.
Don’t Take It Personally
It can be very discouraging when your partner’s sibling does not appear to take a liking to you. This should, however, be understood to have nothing to do with you directly. These feelings may not necessarily be related to who or what you are as a person but may simply be sibling rivalry. If you notice that your partner’s sibling is tense or cold with you, you should not assume they have a grudge against you. They might be jealous of the changes in their relationship with your partner or might be handling their feelings.
It’s important not to take it personally. Their actions have probably more to do with their issues or past than anything you would do. Do not take the wrong attitude towards the relationship. Try to have a good attitude toward your partner. It is important not to let one’s opinion demoralize you. Too often, things have a knack for getting better with time.
Give It Time and Space
The first thing you should do whenever you have a problem with a partner’s sibling who appears to dislike you is to wait patiently. Sibling relationships, particularly those that have been long-standing, may take time to stabilize when there is a newcomer. Your partner’s brother or sister may take time to realize that you are not a threat to their relationship with your partner. Directly demanding that they like you is counterproductive, as is expecting an immediate adoption of your presence; people need time to get used to it.
Do not force too many deep connections. Instead, let things happen casually and do not apply pressure. Whether you encounter each other at family occasions, engage in casual conversation. These simple, informal interactions can go a long way. Remember, humility and patience are key; never lie, be angry, be rude, and never push the pace. The gap, they say, is most often covered by time and patience.
Communicate With Your Partner
If you notice your relationship with your partner’s sibling is strained, you should discuss it with your partner. Your partner understands how the sibling would be and behave. If you do discuss it, do it quietly, without confrontation, and express your opinion. Such a message could be, ‘I guess I have been pulling away from your brother/sister lately, and I do not know how to go about it.’ Do you have any advice?” It gives you a chance to introduce the topic without arguing or upsetting the other partner, while the partner is invited to guide you through the situation.
Your partner may also be able to mediate when there is tension between you and your sibling. You should understand that your partner can only give you information and encouragement. Relationship with their sibling becomes your responsibility. They should not be expected to sort things out but can be useful in helping you get a better perspective.
Final Thoughts
The drama with the siblings may be difficult, but that does not mean you cannot be friends with them. Through patience, a right attitude, and communication, you should be able to navigate any tension that comes with the partner’s sibling. Do not rush. Rome was not built in a day. Relationships take time to grow; they might just need time. You can build a positive relationship with your partner’s sibling.
