Let’s talk about love. What is love to you? Everybody looks at love in many different ways, including self-love. To the individual crossing you in the street it can be a simple smile. To the lady next door, it can be you helping her with something she isn’t able to do herself. To the kin to the one you know, it can mean buying flowers to show kindness. Or to the single mother trying to make ends meet, it can mean a simple hug from her child. In this article, we are going to dive deeper into what love truly is and how love and self-love can completely transform our physical reality.Â
Generational Love vs Self-Love
Generational love, what is it and how do we recognize generational from self-love? We all have experienced love in one way or another but interpreting what love of yourself from a pattern of what we think love is, can be difficult. Let alone falling into a pattern of what we were brought up to think love is. As we get older and age and experience things in life as heartbreak, happiness, and comfort, we experience love in many different forms. But do you ever sit back and recognize a pattern of how you cope or celebrate these forms of accomplishments or losses?
Example: Ever wonder why the victim of domestic violence runs back to their abusive partner or the guy celebrating a win of some sort picks up the bottle to celebrate those wins and it continues to happen over and over again? Then, you find out as you dig deeper that addiction runs on his side and abuse runs on hers.
Their parents and their grandparents went through the same thing. Well, this is generational patterns/ways that he and she find happiness and have interpreted what happiness is from generations before them. We confuse happiness as love and seek our whole life for happiness. Happiness is a different emotion than love. Love reaches beyond galaxies, galaxies we haven’t even discovered yet, including self-love. We must go through pain and take risks in order to feel true love. Most are scared to feel the actual feeling of true love because of fear.
Self-Love vs Fear
Let’s talk about fear. Fear can debilitate us in many ways. It can make us bed bound, heart palpitations, negative thoughts and truly stop us from reaching our goals in life and preform the smallest of activities. Fear of the unknown and what will happen in the unknown is a big source as to why most don’t reach their goals and return to “what they know”, generational comfort/love. Say the girl that runs back to her abuser realizes it’s not love, matter of fact it’s completely opposite.
Say she packs her bags and starts a new life by herself. Say the addict gets clean and instead of celebrating with a drink he gets with his friends and has a cup of coffee. This is where self-love comes into play as well as fear. These people were scared to jump off into the unknown. She was afraid of being lonely and he had fears of dying from withdrawals. But deep down inside of them they realized there had be a change. So, they conquered their fear and fell into the unknown, aka Dark Knight of the Soul.
Dark Knight of the Soul
Fear resides in the Dark Knight of the Soul. Everyone who overcomes fear in order have self-love falls into the abyss of the Dark Knight of the Soul. So, what is it and how do you fight through it and fight your fears? Dark Knight of the Soul is where our demons and the ancestors before us demons lie. Dark Knight of the Soul will make us take a backseat, put us in pause in order for us to self reflect.
This is a very dark place and very hard to navigate if you don’t realize these are what you’re facing. Reflection is huge in this abyss. We must reflect and take accountability for ourselves; the pain we caused in others and the self sabotage we cause ourselves. This can be painful when you have this realization. It will hurt and you will cry. But, at the end of the tunnel there is light. That is where your self-love resides.Â
Self-Love and Manifestation
Self-love is huge in manifesting your desires. True love for yourself emanates light, and some people can actually physically see it. Ever wonder why someone stands out and glows? This is because they have self love. They have been through the darkness, and they are living their best life. Love is the highest form and vibration. Miracles happen on this level and manifestation happens at a rapid rate. This is how our lives can truly change with self-love. At this point we are following our heart the center of where manifestations and the happiness we seek lies.
