Romance often fades as people age and deal with other responsibilities, such as health issues, family, and changing circumstances. Days of passion seem long gone, and igniting a spark after 60 can seem nearly impossible.
Expert tips can help couples reconnect and rediscover the love they had for each other in the past. Consider these eight ways to heat up your relationship if your connection is stagnant and feel the love again.
Time Alone Together for More Romance
Romance is challenging when grown children and grandchildren are at home or visiting frequently. For those still working outside the home, energy is often diminished by the end of the day.
Taking time to be together alone is essential to reconnecting. Find ways to leave everyone and everything else behind for a few hours to talk, laugh, and update each other about your lives. From a walk in the park to a few hours at an eatery and hotel, there are options to help you get to know each other again without the din of the world.
Discuss Intimacy
While you know each other well, intimacy changes with our health, libido, and sense of self-confidence. Discussing feelings about intimacy can help you find new ways to express yourselves together and explore solutions to infusing more romance in your lives.
For example, wearing lingerie or carrying your partner into the bedroom might be memories of the past. However, you can create new memories by discussing how you envision intimacy now and trying new ways to connect.
Dare to Do Something New Together
Susie Masterson, a BACP registered relationship therapist and coach, says, “When we live with people for a long time, there’s a lot of repetition.” After doing the same things for years or even decades, interest may start to diminish, and boredom sets in.
Try a new hobby or activity as a team. Learning something different can help you regain the spark and feel ready for romance, including new activities in the bedroom and beyond.
Focus on Health and Well-Being
As we age, we may feel tired and have less energy for romance and fun. Focusing on health and wellness together can help you regain your enthusiasm and ability to engage in more activities. Visit a doctor for an overall checkup to ensure you’re both in the best possible shape.
Consider engaging in healthy pursuits, such as yoga, meditation, and stretching exercises. While you work out for improved well-being, you will likely feel more confident and ready for romance.
Reach Out and Touch Each Other
Our sense of touch can incite emotional responses and comfort us. Bring that sense of joy, relaxation, and excitement to each other through touch every day.
Touching can be as simple as a hug during the day or holding hands while walking down the street. After a long day, offer a back massage and see if romance starts to spark once you get closer through thoughtful and considerate touching.
Sweet Talk and Compliments
When you first met, you both likely engaged in plenty of sweet talk to fuel the romance. As we age, our confidence might dip as our appearances change. Complimenting one another is a wonderful way to show you still admire and care for the other person.
Be sincere in your compliments, and avoid going overboard. The goal is to honestly convey what you like about your partner and make them feel more romantic and confident.
Revel in the Past
Reminiscing is reserved for those who have a rich history together. Embrace those moments by recollecting them through photos, movies, and conversation.
If you had a favorite place together, consider revisiting it to rekindle your romance. A blast from the past can help infuse new life into the present.
Curiosity and Adventure for Intimacy
The demands of daily life, such as maintaining a home and raising a family, can put you both on a familiar treadmill. If you’ve both lost your sense of adventure, it’s time to try something exciting.
Let your curiosity kick in and talk about trying a hobby, a new restaurant, or traveling to a unique destination. A refreshing change of pace can get you enthused about life, love, and romance again.
The Wrap-Up
While romance and igniting a spark after 60 can be challenging, it’s not impossible. Taking time to talk, touch, and explore each other in a new way can make an incredible difference in your life and love.
Plus, rediscovering romance can help you feel healthier and more confident. You’ve done everything else together, and you can both do this, too!
