Abuse! I’m sure many of you have dealt with this in some form or another, even myself. It could be physical, mental, or even sexual. We have a choice on how to cope with these types of abuse. I will talk about all of the different types. Abuse is real and, unfortunately, will never go away, ever! We must choose how we deal with it and cope if we encounter it.
Toxic Relationships and Bullies
Learning how to identify toxic relationships is important. You need to identify these relationships and get out as soon as possible. If you have received abuse from a person in any way, it could be from a sibling, spouse, parent, or teacher. Someone who is an abuser is addicted to it. No matter what type of abuse it is. If they don’t get help, they will never change.
This can be physical as well. I do have some personal experience with physical abuse. My ex-husband actually held a knife to my throat. Right then and there, I left and didn’t look back. On a side note, he threw all of my clothes and belongings out into the middle of the street and away. However, just because he didn’t hurt me physically doesn’t mean he didn’t hurt me mentally and emotionally.
Another form is from bullies. They always have to be right. They continue to be a bully because they want to be in control and always think they are right. If you are bullied, know they must always have the last word. Let’s say they don’t let go if they don’t get the last word. They will try every avenue to reach you because they want that last word.
How Manipulators Operate
Manipulators are also an example of abuse. They manipulate you into thinking you are wrong or did something wrong when, in fact, you did nothing wrong at all. They are lonely and unhappy, and I’m sorry to say they don’t have a life. They have nothing better to do than to start drama. Some people thrive on drama, especially if they don’t get the reaction they are looking for. They get angry, and they feel they have lost, and it angers them that they haven’t won.
I have learned some things over the years about abuse years that I would like to share. I learned that some people don’t grow up or learn how to adult. I had a childhood friend who did so much physical harm to her sister that it kills me to think about it. To this day, she still tries to inflict mental abuse on both of us as if we are still 12 years old. She doesn’t realize that we are adults and don’t need to be exposed to this, nor will we put up with it.
We both learned that we are adults now, of course. She is my best friend, and she is my sister now. My actual sister is mentally abusive to me. My father was dying in the hospital, and my sister said, “Can we split his ashes?”. Who says that? Again, more abuse. I hope this will help you if you have experienced or are experiencing any type of abuse in your life.
Final Thoughts
I encourage anyone who has been through an abusive situation to read books that can help you in your recovery process. Also, to help you to find a way out of a relationship of abuse. Recovering is the most important thing you can do to focus on getting your life back on track, be happy and healthy, thrive, and take care of yourself. If you have ever been or are being abused, please reach out for help! It is out there, but you must be brave enough to ask for it.
